Many of us live in the realm of impurity. We desire to become sexually pure, but seem to be losing the fight. The question remains: How do you cross over from the realm of impurity to the realm of purity? What’s the bridge to get you from one side to the other?
Why you fight for purity is just as important as how you fight for it. You can have the best strategy in the world, but without motivation you won’t take action. A “how” without a “why” is like having a map leading to a destination, but no gas in the tank to get there. You need both the map and gas to drive somewhere. In the same way, you need to know why and how to fight purity; they go hand in hand.
Let’s establish the “why” first. Here are two reasons to fight for purity:
- You fight for purity to fight for your spouse. Marriage is a beautiful gift. When you fight for purity, you are fighting to protect your marriage. You are staying faithful to the one you entered a covenant relationship with.
- You fight for purity to fight for intimacy with God. Philippians 3:8 says “I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ.” Paul is saying that in comparison to knowing God, everything else is worthless. Saying no to impurity means you are saying yes to knowing God on a more intimate level.
Now let’s establish the “how” next. Here are seven ways to fight for purity:
- Treat the other gender with respect. You protect your own thoughts and heart when you carefully navigate the waters of relationship with the opposite sex.
- Love your parents well. For men, how you treat your mother will reflect how you treat your wife. For women, how you treat your father will reflect how you treat your husband.
- Submit to accountability. Sin grows exponentially in the dark. Confession brings sin to light and allows room for repentance. Repentance isn’t a onetime thing, it’s a posture of your heart that lasts a lifetime.
- Pursue God. Pursuing God will help you pursue your spouse. When you pursue a vertical relationship with God, you will have God-honoring horizontal relationships.
- Practice selflessness. Marriage is a daily fight between selflessness and selfishness. Sexual impurity is a product of a selfish heart. Practice selflessness in the little things. This will help you develop a selfless heart that puts your spouse before your impure desires.
- Submit yourself to God’s word. A steady diet of God’s word changes your heart. A heart molded by the inspired word of God will help you desire purity.
- Prayerfully depend on God. Develop a healthy prayer life in which your dependence on God is reflected by how much you pray.
These seven ways to fight for purity may seem small, but make a huge impact if put into practice. It is possible to live in the realm of purity, but only by depending God and community. The road to purity is difficult, but full of grace.
To know God is far better than any form of sexually impurity you can know. When you say no to impurity, you are saying yes to God.
“I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ” (Philippians 3:8).