The Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage. Not only are millions of Americans celebrating this law being passed, but millions of Christians are celebrating it also. Obama said “this ruling is a victory for America…we are all more free.” This new law is going to change the face of our country. As Christians, how should we respond to this situation?
First off, let’s swallow a “humility pill” and humble ourselves a bit. Whether you’re a heterosexual or homosexual, you are a sinner in need of Christ. “Surely there is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins” (Ecclesiastes 7:20). “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). “We are all infected and impure with sin” (Isaiah 64:6). Because we are all sinners, what saves us? It isn’t staying away from certain sins such as homosexuality; it’s staying away from self-righteousness and surrendering your life to Jesus. Now that we are all on the same playing field, I think our hearts are ready to humbly look at the issue of homosexuality, and address it in truth and love. Let’s look at the truth of this situation and how to respond in love.
The truth of this situation is that homosexuality is wrong and marriage is between man and woman. Hear me when I say this, I am not using this blog to rant about how homosexuals are sick and disgusting sinners. In fact, we’re all sick and disgusting sinners as we just saw. Rather, this blog is being written to remind us about the truth of marriage in that it is between man and woman. Many Christians are celebrating same-sex marriage because they do not realize it is wrong, either because they are unaware of Scripture or have been swayed by culture. In a world where the overwhelming population is for same-sex marriage, we must remind ourselves the truth about marriage, that biblically defined, it is exclusively between man and woman. Matthew 19:4-5 says, “He answered, ‘Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?’” Romans also talks about how homosexuality is unnatural and wrong. “For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. Their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural, and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men…” (Romans 1:26-27). Now that we understand homosexuality is wrong and that marriage is between man and woman, let’s single out the homosexual community, point fingers at them, and condemn them as if we are their superiors (Lots of sarcasm here!) All sarcasm aside, let’s approach this situation humbly. As Christians, how do we respond to same-sex marriage?
Christians are responding in two different ways. Obviously, there are more than two ways, but these are the two extremes. We ignore Scripture and accept same-sex marriage or we zone in on Scripture and rebuke it as if we’re the most righteous people on earth. I would argue that neither of these are the correct way to respond. We must find a balance. We must not be passive people in regards to same-sex marriage, but we must not become people of judgement, condemnation, and hate. James 4:12 says, “There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you–who are you to judge your neighbor?” We’re not to judge our neighbor whether they are homosexual or not. Mark 12:31 says “’Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” Whether your neighbor is homosexual or not, how do we love them without passing judgement?
Love does not always manifest itself in the form of support. We have this misconception in our culture that if we don’t support someone, we don’t love them. It’s as if the words “love” and “support” are inseparable. Loving people who are homosexual (or any sin for that matter) does not mean telling them we agree with what they are doing and it doesn’t mean celebrating with them when same-sex marriage is legalized. Love also does not manifest itself in the form of holding up signs that say “God hates fags.” Love is not passive, judgmental, or condemning. “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). So how do we respond to the legalization of same-sex marriage? We hold firm to truth as we humbly love others.